RURAL POVERTY IS A SOCIAL PROBLEM. RECOMMENDATIONS TO MILL-S’s ADMINISTRATIONM TO IMPROVE THE CONDITIONS OF THE PEOPLE IN THE RURAL AREAS.
Development in most third world countries for that matter Ghana as an example has been hampered by abject rural poverty. To this effect development in general is nothing to write home about in Ghana since the rural folk which contribute the majority hardly make ends meet.
Poverty is defined by Darkwah1 (2005) as a social economic measure often defined both in monetary and non monetary terms. By monetary or economic terms, an individual is declared poor if he or she does not earn an internationally specified basic amount of income. In this sense poverty is assumed to be prevailing in a particular place if a majority of its people cannot earn more than (1) one dollar a day.
Non monetary measures of poverty are referred to general lack of basic necessities of livelihood. This is a situation where getting a single meal for a day becomes a major problem for the majority of the citizenry. There are low educational facilities leading to ignorance and illiteracy, poor access to roads, lack of modern health facilities, poor accommodation and high mortality rate1.
On a more general note, poverty refers to social or psychological deprivation as per the definition of Ghana poverty reduction strategy (G P R S). By the definition of G P R S, poverty refers to the constraints or inability of a large segment of the population to full advantage of the economic and social opportunities available nationally and globally to develop them.
It result from the human lack of physical and financial support to sustain livelihood and inequalities n access to control and benefit from resources.2
From the above definitions, poverty can be said to be prevailing in Ghana more especially in the rural areas. This can be attributed the fact that people living in the rural areas constitute about 70% of the total Ghanaian population. They are predominantly peasant farmers. However, these areas lack access to good road network which is a major problem since farm product cannot be transported to the urban areas. High mortality and low fertility rates, illiteracy and object ignorance, malnutrition and poor shelter are also some factors that contribute to general low living standard in the rural areas.
The nature of rural poverty in Ghana generally tends to impede or mitigate the national economic growth or development.
National development is a multidimensional phenomenon. There are many indicator of development which encompasses all spheres of human life than relying on a country’s Gross National Product (G N P) and it’s per capital income. These other indicators which are comparatively conducive for measuring a country’s level of development are the human and social indicators. Among the social development indicator are life expectancy at birth, infant mortality rate, access to safe drinking water, primary health care and education, gender empowerment, adult literacy rate, women access to education, food, security, child survival and equity in gender participation and political life
These human and social indicators which were developed by the United Nation Development Programme (U N D P) are meant to ascertain people well being which seeks to determines their level of life substances, self esteem and freedom from other people and servitude from Nature in effect by using per capital income and G N P alone cannot ascertain the real situation of a nations development. That is, a county can have a high per capital income but cannot be said to be developed because it does not translate it in to the real life situation of the rural majority since it is only concentrated in the hands of a few political or economically privileged ones.
2{National development in Ghana or economic development is by this definitions and indicators on a lower level,} 2 this is because the rural areas are attended to making living condition for its populate very difficult.3 {rural poverty in Ghana has its attendant effect on national development which include:
Unemployment_ because the rural areas are not developed and there are virtually no industries and formal employment opportunities, the rural folk are generally not employed thereby making living conditions difficult for them.
Low agricultural productivity and poor marketing system_ the mode of agriculture is peasant farming and depend on human labor which leads to poor crop yielding. The few products hardly earn them income because there are no market sources.
Moreover, high maternal mortality, high infant mortality and low fertility rate due to lack of health facilities. Even in situation where there are few facilities around, their locations are far from the majority of the people. Coupled with bad roads, pregnant women and even the sick die on the way to this health centers.
More, there is low level of education and high rate of ignorance. This situation greatly affects their thinking capacities and belief systems. Prostitution, over stressing of the few social amenities, noise, pollution and high traffic situation does not affect the rural folk alone but the general national economic development.
Many governmental administration in have made various conscious efforts to eradicate rural poverty, some of which have proved futile.
To these effects as an administrator, I wish to make the following recommendation to Mill’s ruling National Democratic Party administration as a supplement to their development agenda as a way of helping to curb the general problems and consequences of rural poverty on national development.
Firstly, there should be an increase in the amount involves in the Ghana Poverty Reduction Strategy, According to Prof. Asenso (1984), poverty reduction has remained a compelling objective of Ghana since independence starting with the small holder_ farmers strategies of 1970, Ghana has moved through the structural Adjustment programme(S A D) and the programme of Action to Mitigate the social cause of Adjustment (P A M S C A D) in 1980 and 1990 in to its current poverty reduction strategy, (G P R S)3 though Mills administration has made G P R S its main policy, the amount of money involved and the amount disbursed to rural people as a loam for self improvement is so minimal that it does not meet its intended objectives.
For there to be a sustainable development, the loan facility should be increase with a small percentage of interest. This will be a commitment of wealth creation and poverty reduction especially in the rural areas.
Also, I will recommend for an improvement and restructuring of decentralization of local governance and good governance. According to Ayee (1995), Ghana’s move towards decentralization and good governance has been a tremendous effort in ensuring local level participation in politics.
Central government has been extended to the grass root. The P N D C law 207 established the local governance concert in 1988 leading to the establishment of 110 district assemblies. To Ayee therefore the aim of this was to allow the local people define their own problems, set o their own priorities and come out with their own suggested solutions and how to deal with these problems. According to Ayee, the financial cap citation, power allocations of the assemblies have not been the best over the years.
He contends that, the assemblies which are tasked with the provision of social infrastructure, alleviation of poverty and co coordinating the development programmes of the central government in the rural areas have little funs to undertake this assignment4, According to section 9 of the district assemblies’ common fund Act (1993(ACT455) not less than 5% of the total government revenue should be paid to district common fund. This figure sees to be woefully inadequate and needs to be upwardly adjusted.
With this adjustment, the assemblies can provide motorable roads, educational facilities thereby alleviating rural poverty. The assembly must be given a wide range of revenue generation capacity so as to set fund for rural development.
Lastly, conducive environment for N G Os in partnership with local authority in rural development and according to Ampia (1998), conducive environment will attrite donor agencies and nongovernmental organizations which will partner with local authorities to provide social services for the improvement condition of the rural folk, while private participation is recommended, the state should guide and control the activities of such private sector agencies in order not to turn in to profit oriented at the expense of rural Folk.5
In a nutshell, alleviating rural poverty folk is a multidimensional activity. The government needs to strengthen rural agricultural development, mechanized agriculture than relying on human labor and natural rainfall and also allow for local level participation in decision making and implementation. This recommendation when implemented will improve the living standard of the rural people.
REFERENCES
1. Akosual K Darkwah (2005), legon Journal of sociology, VOL.2, no 1 pgs 81 to 99
2. Republic of Ghana, National Poverty Reduction Programme (N P R P)’ Nkosu fighting poverty together for a better tomorrow’ VOL 1 no 1 may 1999.
3. Pro. Asenso Kwajo Okyere(1984), integration of poverty alleviation programme with over raw development strategies with special references to Ghana’s P A M S C A D. ISSER, university of Ghana, 1984, pgs 98 _ 112
4. Ayee, J R A (1995), financing sub govt. In Ghana: the case of district assemblies’ common fund. Regional and federal studies VOL 5 no 3 pgs 292_ 306
5. Ampia J W (1998), opportunity for the participation of development and business oriented N G Os in poverty reduction programmes at local levels that is seminar presentation on the partnership between district assemblies and N G Os in local level development. Organization by the Konrad Adenaver foundation at Sunyani 1998.
6. Thanks to Bafo of legon
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Thursday, May 14, 2009
CHIEF INAUGURATE NEW STREET LIGHT.
Nana Kwadwo Dediatuo, the chief of Nkrankrom in the Brong Ahhafo Region yesterday launched a new street light in his town.
He did this as part of the town’s 6th annual home coming forum which is done in every year.
In Nana’s speech, he said there the need for the town to have a light as part of development in the town and that has been the major burden for him and the people of Nkrankrom as the only street light at the centre of the town is not functioning.
He said his town had the street light as a result of the 2004 general election; Nana thanked the NPP government for the project and edged the Mills government to continue the good work since the various houses in the town need light.
Nana Kwadwo Dediatuo, the chief of Nkrankrom in the Brong Ahhafo Region yesterday launched a new street light in his town.
He did this as part of the town’s 6th annual home coming forum which is done in every year.
In Nana’s speech, he said there the need for the town to have a light as part of development in the town and that has been the major burden for him and the people of Nkrankrom as the only street light at the centre of the town is not functioning.
He said his town had the street light as a result of the 2004 general election; Nana thanked the NPP government for the project and edged the Mills government to continue the good work since the various houses in the town need light.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
cocoa
Cocoa, common name for a powder derived from the fruit seeds of the cacao tree and for the beverage prepared by mixing the powder with milk. When cocoa is prepared, most of the cocoa butter is removed in the manufacturing process. After the fat is separated and the residue is ground, small percentages of various substances may be added, such as starch to prevent caking, or potassium bicarbonate to neutralize the natural acids and astringents and make the cocoa easy to dissolve in liquids. Cocoa has a high food value, containing as much as 20 percent protein, 40 percent carbohydrate, and 40 percent fat. It is also mildly stimulating because of the presence of the bromine, an alkaloid that is closely related to caffeine.
The processing of the cacao seeds, better known as cocoa beans, is complex. The fruit harvest is cured or fermented in a pulpy state for three to nine days, during which the heat kills the seeds and turns them brown. The enzymes activated by fermentation impart the substances that will give the beans their characteristic chocolate flavor later during roasting. The beans are then dried in the sun and cleaned in special machines before they are roasted to bring out the chocolate flavor. They are then shelled in a crushing machine and ground into chocolate. During the grinding, the fat melts, producing a sticky liquid called chocolate liquor, which is used to make chocolate candy or is filtered to remove the fat and then cooled and ground to produce cocoa powder.
The beans are sold in international markets. African countries harvest about two-thirds of the total world output; Ghana, Côte d'Ivoire, Nigeria, and Cameroon are the leading African cocoa producers. Most of the remainder comes from South American countries, chiefly Brazil and Ecuador. The crop is traded on international commodity futures markets. Attempts by producing countries to stabilize prices through international agreements have had little success.
Written by DJ. Erico
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TRUE LOVE
Love and electricity are one in the same, my dear. If you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time a kiss
is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt, and then you’re not really in love at all.
To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can't do this
The best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really is. For as gold is tested in fire, and so will love be perfected in pain
Dans l'amour vrai c'est l'ame qui embrasse le corps.
Translation: In true love it is the soul that embraces the body
In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
I've loved you all my life. Even before there was you there was the promise of you, and now that we've met, I'll never be the same!
The purity and trueness of love through an Internet relationship far passes that of one based on physical contact.
There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It's caused by the absence of you
I never thought love could be so magnificent until I saw the sincere look in your eyes, telling me that this time...I would never shed another tear
To truly love something, you must first give it a chance to fail. If it survives, it is going to be stronger than ever. Distance is pure proof of this, and forever we will love if we survive.
True love is what I feel for you, for you have my soul, heart and passion, those can only be felt again when I desire you.
You know when your guy is perfect when you walk into a room dressed in sweats, make-up, and tears running down your face and the first thing that he says to you is, 'Baby, you look beautiful.
True love is worth waiting for even if it takes a lifetime. Then in return a lifetime of love will be waiting for you
When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly
Over time things change and things disappear, but your love and your devotion stays embedded, like stone, in my heart for my eternal days.
It's not found in a book, or even in a movie, if you open your eyes and open your arms you will find me in front of you. Love is bliss, and what makes it even better is that true love ends with a life long friendship.
It's not who you are to the world, it's who you are to me. It's not how many times I say I love you... it's how much I really do.
Love is not always convenient, but if it is true love, it will outlast any strain, overcome any obstacle, and grow consistently and exponentially for all eternity
You bring such happiness to my life and fulfill that love I have looked and searched for
Sometimes I wonder why I fell in love with you in the first place, and continue to love you after all the pain. And then you smile at me, and I realize why; without you, I can't breathe.
If there were no words, no way to speak, I would still hear you. If there were no tears, no way to feel inside, I'd still feel for you. And even if the sun refused to shine, even if romance ran out of rhyme, you would still have my heart until the end of time. You're all I need my love, my Valentine.
So, what is love then? Does it sing like the hymns of a thousand years, or is it just pop emotion? And if it ever was here and it left, does it mean it was never true?
Could we stay right here 'til the end of time, 'til the earth stops turning? I'm gonna love you 'til the seas run dry, I've found the one I've waited for.
They say 'The person we love is a candle lighting our soul.' If that is true, then you are the sun burning my soul.
You truly love someone when you can feel every joy, sadness and pain of the other as if they were your own
If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you will put aside foolish pride and fear, and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there is no reason for caring.
You can never get him out of your head … It’s the way you get weak in the knees when you get lost in his eyes. It’s the way you can’t breathe when you are around him. It’s the way your hands match perfectly. It’s the way your heart skips a beat when you see him. It’s the way he catches all of your attention by not even saying a word. It’s the way he makes the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. It’s the way you act like a three-year-old in love all over again. It’s the way he hugs and kisses you. It’s the way he makes you fall in love ....
How much longer are we going to keep deceiving ourselves? Why are we going to let go of true love because even though it feels right in the heart, it just doesn't seem logical. How much longer are we going to keep fearing what we cannot see or hear but only feel. How long is it going to take us to figure out that the most purest and the best feelings in life are only felt from the heart, never understood from the mind. It's like believing in God; we can't see him or make logic out of His existence but He is always there in our heart.
A relationship is like fire, and all the problems and jealous people in the world are like water. It's when you know that no amount of water could even dim that flame that you've found the one.
Pure love has nothing to do with the body. It binds and unites the soul of the lover with the soul of beloved. But, pure love does involve tremendous amount of self-sacrifice, it may cause great pain, but pure love always culminates in everlasting bliss
This may be the last time I see you, but if you keep me in your heart, together we shall be eternal; if you believe, we shall never part.
I will love you for the rest of my days, and will love you beyond the world as we know it. Beyond forever, beyond always. Loving you is what I was put here to do.
You will know that you love someone when you want him/her to be happy. Even if that means you're not a part of their happiness.
Sometimes I think that we love someone so much that we're numb to it, because if we really felt how much we loved that person, it would kill us
f I were in Hell and you were in Heaven, I'd always look up and be proud of you. But, if I were in Heaven and you were in Hell, I'd ask God to send me down, because Heaven isn't Heaven without you.
True lovers don't give and take ... they give, and never expect to take anything back. Just like love, in every sense of the word.
I have never in my life been so certain - so certain, that I am afraid. After searching for so long I am afraid that I will awaken from this dream in which I am enveloped every time I gaze into your eyes, every time you touch me, every time you kiss me, every time you hold me, every time you make love to me. I found true love! Of this I am certain.
True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on.
true love is something that can be neither bought nor sold; it can happen to anyone either the young or the old. Once there is love - true love, it can never be broken.
True love is not about the hugs and kisses, the 'I love yours' or the 'I miss yours, but about the chills that hit every part of your spine when you think about him
I'll love you when your hair turns grey. I'll still want you if you gain a little weight. The way I feel for you will always be the same, just as long as your love doesn't change.
I was born to love only you; my soul has formed you to its measure. I want you as a garment for my soul. Your very image is written on my soul; such indescribable intimacy I hide even from you. All that I have, I owe to you; for you I was born, for you I live, for you I must die, and for you I give my last breath.
In your life you will find one person, your forever love, your forever friend. This person is your soul mate, your one true love, and your best friend. The love between you will go beyond words, and be spoken deep within the eyes. This feeling, this connection, will never be broken. They will truly show you that forever means, forever
And you learn that love - true love, always has joys and sorrow, seems ever present, yet is never quite the same, becoming more than love and less than love, so difficult to define. And you learn that through it all, you really can endure, that you really are strong, that you do have value
If it is really love, you can see yourself standing in their eyes, part of the abstinence that is worth dying for. If you long for that recognition that will not part by distance, in time your dream will be replied.
When the love you have is true, you'll know it: just seeing that person will stop your heart and world for one second, but it will endure for a lifetime.
True Love is like a spider and its web; no matter how many times the web is destroyed, or how hard it may seem to rebuild it, and when it seems as if all hope is lost... the spider will work hard to the restore the broken pieces.
Without romance, love gets dry. Without respect, love gets lost. Without caring, love gets boring. Without honesty, love gets unhappy, and without trust, love gets unstable
I don't care what you're wearing, or how much make-up you have on or don't have on; it's just you that makes you so pretty
Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when their is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists.
he touch of your hand gives me strength to get through the day, and your smile reminds me that it's okay if I'm not perfect - you like me just the way I am
True love happens: whether you're prepared or not, it won't matter. It still knocks you off your feet, takes your breath away and changes your life forever.
True love is not measured by how much love is expressed, nor by the benefits of being loved, but by the depth of commitment that actually nurtured the relationship
To love is to understand each other, laugh together, smile with your heart and trust one another. The most important part of love though is to let each other go if this is something you can't do.
True Love is when the look in your eyes shows pure devotion and a love that reaches depths no one else will ever understand for that special someone.
Love ... it is merely a word that we all try to define to ease our search for true love. It has a different meaning for everyone. Trying to define it will only make it harder to find. So, why not find it first? Then you come up with a fancy definition for it later and sound all wise, because then you'll know what you're talking about
To me, you are EVERYTHING. The air that I breathe, the blood in my veins, the one that keeps me alive. And I know that if I ever lost you, the breaths that I take would be no more, and my blood would run dry... because without you, I could no longer live.
If the sky where made of paper and the ocean my ink well; I still wouldn't be able to describe how much I love you, and how wonderful you make me feel when I am with you.
Although you have gone and the day, it is now through, I look out the window and my thoughts race back to you. It seems so far you have wandered, and stumble without you I do, yet my love for you remains, time tested and true.
True love has no definition, for if you define the love you say is true, you have given it boundaries and conditions, and love, true love, has neither.
True love allows great space, great scope, and possession is not part of it. Possession is simply a stage at the beginning, really nothing more than the marking of fresh circumstances. The commitment is to be there and allow all manner of growth and opportunity. To allow divergence. To allow privation even in a sense of unity, because unity depends on parts.
I don’t want a guy who can make my insides melt when I look at him today. I want a guy who can make my insides melt when I look at him, breathing my last breath, a lifetime away from today.
Love is a noble act of self-giving; the more you love, the more you lose a part of you, yet you do not become less of who you are, but you end up complete
We've got this great gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it is going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.
He who is in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he looks at the object beloved, drawing from it with his eyes and his mind those virtues which it possesses
True love will never die if both partners have a strong enough desire to love with all their hearts, because they know, no matter what the price will be, it is always worth paying for just a second longer with the one you love
True love is unconditional and everlasting; it is established over time and validated with memories of the past.
True love is about honesty, sincerity, sharing and fairness. Always get to know each other's needs. Just as you need qualifications to get a job, herein are the qualifications you must have to get love
True love, like many things, can only be seen in the eyes of the beholder. It cannot be jealous, proud, or anxious; it is what is found in the depths of your heart, and longs only for one who's heart longs for the same things as your own.
Love is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus. Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind.
Where's home for you?' a stranger asked a fellow traveler. 'Wherever she is,' came the reply, as the man pointed at his wife
We’re all a little weird and life's a little weird, but if we can find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
When asked where heaven is, I pointed at you and said "in his arms." So, when you wonder why I always say I would love to die in your arms, it's because I know I'll end up in heaven
Love turns the jargon of psychology into moments of self-actualization.
By D J Erico
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Love and electricity are one in the same, my dear. If you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time a kiss
is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt, and then you’re not really in love at all.
To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can't do this
The best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really is. For as gold is tested in fire, and so will love be perfected in pain
Dans l'amour vrai c'est l'ame qui embrasse le corps.
Translation: In true love it is the soul that embraces the body
In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
I've loved you all my life. Even before there was you there was the promise of you, and now that we've met, I'll never be the same!
The purity and trueness of love through an Internet relationship far passes that of one based on physical contact.
There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It's caused by the absence of you
I never thought love could be so magnificent until I saw the sincere look in your eyes, telling me that this time...I would never shed another tear
To truly love something, you must first give it a chance to fail. If it survives, it is going to be stronger than ever. Distance is pure proof of this, and forever we will love if we survive.
True love is what I feel for you, for you have my soul, heart and passion, those can only be felt again when I desire you.
You know when your guy is perfect when you walk into a room dressed in sweats, make-up, and tears running down your face and the first thing that he says to you is, 'Baby, you look beautiful.
True love is worth waiting for even if it takes a lifetime. Then in return a lifetime of love will be waiting for you
When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly
Over time things change and things disappear, but your love and your devotion stays embedded, like stone, in my heart for my eternal days.
It's not found in a book, or even in a movie, if you open your eyes and open your arms you will find me in front of you. Love is bliss, and what makes it even better is that true love ends with a life long friendship.
It's not who you are to the world, it's who you are to me. It's not how many times I say I love you... it's how much I really do.
Love is not always convenient, but if it is true love, it will outlast any strain, overcome any obstacle, and grow consistently and exponentially for all eternity
You bring such happiness to my life and fulfill that love I have looked and searched for
Sometimes I wonder why I fell in love with you in the first place, and continue to love you after all the pain. And then you smile at me, and I realize why; without you, I can't breathe.
If there were no words, no way to speak, I would still hear you. If there were no tears, no way to feel inside, I'd still feel for you. And even if the sun refused to shine, even if romance ran out of rhyme, you would still have my heart until the end of time. You're all I need my love, my Valentine.
So, what is love then? Does it sing like the hymns of a thousand years, or is it just pop emotion? And if it ever was here and it left, does it mean it was never true?
Could we stay right here 'til the end of time, 'til the earth stops turning? I'm gonna love you 'til the seas run dry, I've found the one I've waited for.
They say 'The person we love is a candle lighting our soul.' If that is true, then you are the sun burning my soul.
You truly love someone when you can feel every joy, sadness and pain of the other as if they were your own
If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you will put aside foolish pride and fear, and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there is no reason for caring.
You can never get him out of your head … It’s the way you get weak in the knees when you get lost in his eyes. It’s the way you can’t breathe when you are around him. It’s the way your hands match perfectly. It’s the way your heart skips a beat when you see him. It’s the way he catches all of your attention by not even saying a word. It’s the way he makes the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. It’s the way you act like a three-year-old in love all over again. It’s the way he hugs and kisses you. It’s the way he makes you fall in love ....
How much longer are we going to keep deceiving ourselves? Why are we going to let go of true love because even though it feels right in the heart, it just doesn't seem logical. How much longer are we going to keep fearing what we cannot see or hear but only feel. How long is it going to take us to figure out that the most purest and the best feelings in life are only felt from the heart, never understood from the mind. It's like believing in God; we can't see him or make logic out of His existence but He is always there in our heart.
A relationship is like fire, and all the problems and jealous people in the world are like water. It's when you know that no amount of water could even dim that flame that you've found the one.
Pure love has nothing to do with the body. It binds and unites the soul of the lover with the soul of beloved. But, pure love does involve tremendous amount of self-sacrifice, it may cause great pain, but pure love always culminates in everlasting bliss
This may be the last time I see you, but if you keep me in your heart, together we shall be eternal; if you believe, we shall never part.
I will love you for the rest of my days, and will love you beyond the world as we know it. Beyond forever, beyond always. Loving you is what I was put here to do.
You will know that you love someone when you want him/her to be happy. Even if that means you're not a part of their happiness.
Sometimes I think that we love someone so much that we're numb to it, because if we really felt how much we loved that person, it would kill us
f I were in Hell and you were in Heaven, I'd always look up and be proud of you. But, if I were in Heaven and you were in Hell, I'd ask God to send me down, because Heaven isn't Heaven without you.
True lovers don't give and take ... they give, and never expect to take anything back. Just like love, in every sense of the word.
I have never in my life been so certain - so certain, that I am afraid. After searching for so long I am afraid that I will awaken from this dream in which I am enveloped every time I gaze into your eyes, every time you touch me, every time you kiss me, every time you hold me, every time you make love to me. I found true love! Of this I am certain.
True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on.
true love is something that can be neither bought nor sold; it can happen to anyone either the young or the old. Once there is love - true love, it can never be broken.
True love is not about the hugs and kisses, the 'I love yours' or the 'I miss yours, but about the chills that hit every part of your spine when you think about him
I'll love you when your hair turns grey. I'll still want you if you gain a little weight. The way I feel for you will always be the same, just as long as your love doesn't change.
I was born to love only you; my soul has formed you to its measure. I want you as a garment for my soul. Your very image is written on my soul; such indescribable intimacy I hide even from you. All that I have, I owe to you; for you I was born, for you I live, for you I must die, and for you I give my last breath.
In your life you will find one person, your forever love, your forever friend. This person is your soul mate, your one true love, and your best friend. The love between you will go beyond words, and be spoken deep within the eyes. This feeling, this connection, will never be broken. They will truly show you that forever means, forever
And you learn that love - true love, always has joys and sorrow, seems ever present, yet is never quite the same, becoming more than love and less than love, so difficult to define. And you learn that through it all, you really can endure, that you really are strong, that you do have value
If it is really love, you can see yourself standing in their eyes, part of the abstinence that is worth dying for. If you long for that recognition that will not part by distance, in time your dream will be replied.
When the love you have is true, you'll know it: just seeing that person will stop your heart and world for one second, but it will endure for a lifetime.
True Love is like a spider and its web; no matter how many times the web is destroyed, or how hard it may seem to rebuild it, and when it seems as if all hope is lost... the spider will work hard to the restore the broken pieces.
Without romance, love gets dry. Without respect, love gets lost. Without caring, love gets boring. Without honesty, love gets unhappy, and without trust, love gets unstable
I don't care what you're wearing, or how much make-up you have on or don't have on; it's just you that makes you so pretty
Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when their is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists.
he touch of your hand gives me strength to get through the day, and your smile reminds me that it's okay if I'm not perfect - you like me just the way I am
True love happens: whether you're prepared or not, it won't matter. It still knocks you off your feet, takes your breath away and changes your life forever.
True love is not measured by how much love is expressed, nor by the benefits of being loved, but by the depth of commitment that actually nurtured the relationship
To love is to understand each other, laugh together, smile with your heart and trust one another. The most important part of love though is to let each other go if this is something you can't do.
True Love is when the look in your eyes shows pure devotion and a love that reaches depths no one else will ever understand for that special someone.
Love ... it is merely a word that we all try to define to ease our search for true love. It has a different meaning for everyone. Trying to define it will only make it harder to find. So, why not find it first? Then you come up with a fancy definition for it later and sound all wise, because then you'll know what you're talking about
To me, you are EVERYTHING. The air that I breathe, the blood in my veins, the one that keeps me alive. And I know that if I ever lost you, the breaths that I take would be no more, and my blood would run dry... because without you, I could no longer live.
If the sky where made of paper and the ocean my ink well; I still wouldn't be able to describe how much I love you, and how wonderful you make me feel when I am with you.
Although you have gone and the day, it is now through, I look out the window and my thoughts race back to you. It seems so far you have wandered, and stumble without you I do, yet my love for you remains, time tested and true.
True love has no definition, for if you define the love you say is true, you have given it boundaries and conditions, and love, true love, has neither.
True love allows great space, great scope, and possession is not part of it. Possession is simply a stage at the beginning, really nothing more than the marking of fresh circumstances. The commitment is to be there and allow all manner of growth and opportunity. To allow divergence. To allow privation even in a sense of unity, because unity depends on parts.
I don’t want a guy who can make my insides melt when I look at him today. I want a guy who can make my insides melt when I look at him, breathing my last breath, a lifetime away from today.
Love is a noble act of self-giving; the more you love, the more you lose a part of you, yet you do not become less of who you are, but you end up complete
We've got this great gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it is going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.
He who is in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he looks at the object beloved, drawing from it with his eyes and his mind those virtues which it possesses
True love will never die if both partners have a strong enough desire to love with all their hearts, because they know, no matter what the price will be, it is always worth paying for just a second longer with the one you love
True love is unconditional and everlasting; it is established over time and validated with memories of the past.
True love is about honesty, sincerity, sharing and fairness. Always get to know each other's needs. Just as you need qualifications to get a job, herein are the qualifications you must have to get love
True love, like many things, can only be seen in the eyes of the beholder. It cannot be jealous, proud, or anxious; it is what is found in the depths of your heart, and longs only for one who's heart longs for the same things as your own.
Love is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus. Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind.
Where's home for you?' a stranger asked a fellow traveler. 'Wherever she is,' came the reply, as the man pointed at his wife
We’re all a little weird and life's a little weird, but if we can find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
When asked where heaven is, I pointed at you and said "in his arms." So, when you wonder why I always say I would love to die in your arms, it's because I know I'll end up in heaven
Love turns the jargon of psychology into moments of self-actualization.
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WHAT EVERY WOMEN SHOULD KNOW
1. BE A MOTHER TO HIM: As a woman, you should be a mother to your husband. Remember he left his mother so as to cleave to you. So you must close any gap his leaving his mother might have created in his life. One thing I knew about my mother, before she died was that, she was always there for me. when we were younger, she made sure that she always cooked for us. And back then there was no food as sweet as mother's food. Women, so also you must learn to cook for your husband. As a good wife, you must ensure that you discourage your husband from always eating in chop bars. Don't encourage your family to eat outside, it is usually more expensive and also the food served will not be as nutritious as the one you made yourself. Also, you must pet and cuddle your husband. You may condemn Delilah in the bible, but there is one thing she has that most women lack today: She was able to create a God made pillow on her laps for Samson to sleep on. Samson got so carried away that he did not know when he gave away the secret of his power. You too can make a nest on your laps for your husband, not so as to destroy him as Delilah did, but to encourage him to go on. Do not let some sweet sixteen Delilah outside take him from you, God has given you all it takes to win him to yourself alone. Iwant you to understand that in every man there is a kid that is waiting to express himself. He may be tall and macho but that is all a facade behind the outward appearance, there is a little boy crying put for mummy's attention. The wise woman is she who has learnt to allow this kid expresse himself without the fear of being insulted.
2. PROTECT HIM: Everything is born with a weakness. God has made it that way so that we can complement each other. As a woman, as soon as you discover your husband's weakness try to cover him in that area of his weakness. Please do not use your mouth to run him down, or make him feel less than a man. If possible stand on his side and help him overcome the weakness. In 1 Sam. 25:9-25, the Bible tells a story of a man called Nabal, a time came when David wanted to destroy the man and his household because of his wickedness but his wife stepped in and because of what she did her family was saved. Woman, stand in the gap for your husband. If he is weak in showing appreciation to people then take the initiative of calling them yourself and appreciate them. You can even buy a thank you card and say it is from your husband, in so doing you are covering him up and God will bless you and also deliver your family from destruction.
3. SEE HIM AS YOUR HERO: As a woman, you must see your husband as your number one hero. Your husband may fail outside but let him know that in spite of his failure he is still your hero. I know it may be difficult especially if you have a lazy man as a husband. But you must still see him as your hero. In every man there is a hero. You may say a hero in my husband? Yes, there is a hero in him, may be the hero in him has been swallowed up by alcohol, women, poverty or sickness, with God you can bring that hero out of him.
4. SERVE HIM WITH MIGHTY DIGNITY AND RESPECT: The first thing you must understand as a wife is that, my position as a wife is a call from God. And understanding of that will make you serve your husband with respect. You must work hard to please your husband. Go out and learn how to cook and serve your husband. Even if you don't have money to learn outside there are some TV shows were you are thought how to cook and keep the home. Don't dish his food as if you are giving it to a dog. Don't leave your house girl or relation to serve him. And if for any reason your girl or sister has to prepare the food you must make sure you supervise the serving. Men by nature are naturally drawn to anybody who satisfies their belly, so you must watch who is serving your husband. I have seen some woman lose their homes to their maids or relations because they left everything about their husbands in their care.
To be continued.....
Editor
Pastor Peter Ogbogoh.
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1. BE A MOTHER TO HIM: As a woman, you should be a mother to your husband. Remember he left his mother so as to cleave to you. So you must close any gap his leaving his mother might have created in his life. One thing I knew about my mother, before she died was that, she was always there for me. when we were younger, she made sure that she always cooked for us. And back then there was no food as sweet as mother's food. Women, so also you must learn to cook for your husband. As a good wife, you must ensure that you discourage your husband from always eating in chop bars. Don't encourage your family to eat outside, it is usually more expensive and also the food served will not be as nutritious as the one you made yourself. Also, you must pet and cuddle your husband. You may condemn Delilah in the bible, but there is one thing she has that most women lack today: She was able to create a God made pillow on her laps for Samson to sleep on. Samson got so carried away that he did not know when he gave away the secret of his power. You too can make a nest on your laps for your husband, not so as to destroy him as Delilah did, but to encourage him to go on. Do not let some sweet sixteen Delilah outside take him from you, God has given you all it takes to win him to yourself alone. Iwant you to understand that in every man there is a kid that is waiting to express himself. He may be tall and macho but that is all a facade behind the outward appearance, there is a little boy crying put for mummy's attention. The wise woman is she who has learnt to allow this kid expresse himself without the fear of being insulted.
2. PROTECT HIM: Everything is born with a weakness. God has made it that way so that we can complement each other. As a woman, as soon as you discover your husband's weakness try to cover him in that area of his weakness. Please do not use your mouth to run him down, or make him feel less than a man. If possible stand on his side and help him overcome the weakness. In 1 Sam. 25:9-25, the Bible tells a story of a man called Nabal, a time came when David wanted to destroy the man and his household because of his wickedness but his wife stepped in and because of what she did her family was saved. Woman, stand in the gap for your husband. If he is weak in showing appreciation to people then take the initiative of calling them yourself and appreciate them. You can even buy a thank you card and say it is from your husband, in so doing you are covering him up and God will bless you and also deliver your family from destruction.
3. SEE HIM AS YOUR HERO: As a woman, you must see your husband as your number one hero. Your husband may fail outside but let him know that in spite of his failure he is still your hero. I know it may be difficult especially if you have a lazy man as a husband. But you must still see him as your hero. In every man there is a hero. You may say a hero in my husband? Yes, there is a hero in him, may be the hero in him has been swallowed up by alcohol, women, poverty or sickness, with God you can bring that hero out of him.
4. SERVE HIM WITH MIGHTY DIGNITY AND RESPECT: The first thing you must understand as a wife is that, my position as a wife is a call from God. And understanding of that will make you serve your husband with respect. You must work hard to please your husband. Go out and learn how to cook and serve your husband. Even if you don't have money to learn outside there are some TV shows were you are thought how to cook and keep the home. Don't dish his food as if you are giving it to a dog. Don't leave your house girl or relation to serve him. And if for any reason your girl or sister has to prepare the food you must make sure you supervise the serving. Men by nature are naturally drawn to anybody who satisfies their belly, so you must watch who is serving your husband. I have seen some woman lose their homes to their maids or relations because they left everything about their husbands in their care.
To be continued.....
Editor
Pastor Peter Ogbogoh.
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0249942184 and 0209176486
LOOK OUT FOR GOOD RELATIONSHIP
A. Positive godly self-image.
I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 (KJV).
People with a positive self-image take pride in what they do, in whom they are, they take care of themselves - they watch over their own personal lives, and therefore they are also to care adequately for somebody else and do not become excess baggage in anybody's life. They take then for their lives and express a godly self-confidence.
THEY MUST HAVE A COMMITTMENT TO THIER PERSONAL, SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH
1. He or she should be committed to learning everything they can, to become a better person and a better spouse in the future.
2. People who place high value on personal transformation tend to work towards a happier home.
3. Is he or she willing to receive help and guidance through counseling, books, seminars, tapes, lectures, messages etc that can further enhance his person and his ability to make you enjoy relating to his or her?
4. Any relationship where only one person seeks help will perpetually be one-sided - such help is necessary because we all have excess baggages from our childhood, upbringing and various social contacts we have had.
5. The answer to such excess baggages is an openness to the working of God and the desire and hunger to be a better person.
AIMING FOR EMOTIONAL MATURITY AND EXPRESSION
1. An intimate relationship is only possible where the two persons in the relationship are open, practical and willing to be vulnerable to each other.
2. We all have feelings, but not everyone knows what are our feelings about certain matters are.
3. Management of feelings includes: ability to express your feelings without bottling them up; the method of sharing your feeling without hurting everyone around you.
4. Being in a relationship where the other person does not express themselves give syou the feeling of self-punishment, makes you become emotionally over-generous - that is you give more then your partner gives or desires to receive from you.
5. A person who is not willing to open up and share his intimate feeling does not deserve an intimate felowship or relationship.
6. The emotionally stingy will make you practically beg to be cored/.
7. The emotionally stingy will make it look like you are being difficult asking to be loved.
HONESTY AND INTEGRITY
This cannot be over-emphasised in the relationship, where both are believers that there has to be honesty, integrity, and trust-worthiness for a healty relationship to exist and continue.
- Dishonesty quenches love and destroys intimacy.
- Dishonesty can make the other person frigid in their emotions.
- Dishonesty is the attitude of a person who thinks he is only negotiating his way through life.
It helps you to be honest with yourself, not to chain to be what you are not. integrity in its expression towards others means upholding honour and imparting other peoples life, in such a way that do not doubt who you are and what you do:
Lack of integrity in a relationship when both are singles if not dealt with will only expand and explode after marriage, unless there is some kind of divine intervention. On the other hand: consistent honesty provides the atmosphere for natural trust to mature.
THEY HAVE A GREAT POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
Negative people do not matter- of -fact they focus on problems and resist solutions. they find something, someone, somewhere to blame for what is happening. they allow fear and worry to rule them.
Negative people are cynical about life, cynical about people and do not trust easily. Building a relationship with a negative person is an upward task that will challenge even the most patient. A person with a positive attitude to life is always looking for solution to the challenges they face - They turn obstacles to opportunities. If you are in relationship and have fallen in love with a person, your love can only thrive in the atmosphere of positively - while it will be starved by a person who is persistently negative.
positive people focus more on their vision rather than allow what they are facing to determin their futuire.
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY
Entering a relationship with the intention to marry in thr future is for the matured. taking responsibility starts from things as little as: managing one's space to making enough room to support more than yourself, making money to support who ever you bring to your world..
If you attract a person who cannot take responsibility for his life- you have more or less adopted a child, rather than ffound a partner for life.
RESPONSIBILITY:
1. Responsibility means doing what you say will do, being where you say you will be:
- Paying the bils
- Keeping your promise
- Showing up on time
- Picking the kids from school when you have children
- Being there at the precise time you said you would be
ACCOUNTABILITY:
1.Taking responsibility for your life also means being accountable - not thinking that because a man is going to be or is the head of the home - he no longer has accountability to his spouse.
2. or the lady who just browses over the truth of her lateness and say i've been out with girls.
accountability must be mutual in my relationship that will go far and that will produce healthy children and a healthy marriage.
RESPECT
1. Respect starts from childhood, teaching children to recognize boundaries, how far they may go, and what they may do.
2. it mature into asking for things gently without shouting or banging.
3. A person will show his respect for you by how he manages his feelings, how he recognizes your personal boundaries pornoriom, your pornoriom, his employee or employer. Other people's feeling, your time, and his time.
Editor
Pastor Peter Obgobo
Hitnewsphotos
0249942184 or 0209176486.
A. Positive godly self-image.
I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 (KJV).
People with a positive self-image take pride in what they do, in whom they are, they take care of themselves - they watch over their own personal lives, and therefore they are also to care adequately for somebody else and do not become excess baggage in anybody's life. They take then for their lives and express a godly self-confidence.
THEY MUST HAVE A COMMITTMENT TO THIER PERSONAL, SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH
1. He or she should be committed to learning everything they can, to become a better person and a better spouse in the future.
2. People who place high value on personal transformation tend to work towards a happier home.
3. Is he or she willing to receive help and guidance through counseling, books, seminars, tapes, lectures, messages etc that can further enhance his person and his ability to make you enjoy relating to his or her?
4. Any relationship where only one person seeks help will perpetually be one-sided - such help is necessary because we all have excess baggages from our childhood, upbringing and various social contacts we have had.
5. The answer to such excess baggages is an openness to the working of God and the desire and hunger to be a better person.
AIMING FOR EMOTIONAL MATURITY AND EXPRESSION
1. An intimate relationship is only possible where the two persons in the relationship are open, practical and willing to be vulnerable to each other.
2. We all have feelings, but not everyone knows what are our feelings about certain matters are.
3. Management of feelings includes: ability to express your feelings without bottling them up; the method of sharing your feeling without hurting everyone around you.
4. Being in a relationship where the other person does not express themselves give syou the feeling of self-punishment, makes you become emotionally over-generous - that is you give more then your partner gives or desires to receive from you.
5. A person who is not willing to open up and share his intimate feeling does not deserve an intimate felowship or relationship.
6. The emotionally stingy will make you practically beg to be cored/.
7. The emotionally stingy will make it look like you are being difficult asking to be loved.
HONESTY AND INTEGRITY
This cannot be over-emphasised in the relationship, where both are believers that there has to be honesty, integrity, and trust-worthiness for a healty relationship to exist and continue.
- Dishonesty quenches love and destroys intimacy.
- Dishonesty can make the other person frigid in their emotions.
- Dishonesty is the attitude of a person who thinks he is only negotiating his way through life.
It helps you to be honest with yourself, not to chain to be what you are not. integrity in its expression towards others means upholding honour and imparting other peoples life, in such a way that do not doubt who you are and what you do:
Lack of integrity in a relationship when both are singles if not dealt with will only expand and explode after marriage, unless there is some kind of divine intervention. On the other hand: consistent honesty provides the atmosphere for natural trust to mature.
THEY HAVE A GREAT POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
Negative people do not matter- of -fact they focus on problems and resist solutions. they find something, someone, somewhere to blame for what is happening. they allow fear and worry to rule them.
Negative people are cynical about life, cynical about people and do not trust easily. Building a relationship with a negative person is an upward task that will challenge even the most patient. A person with a positive attitude to life is always looking for solution to the challenges they face - They turn obstacles to opportunities. If you are in relationship and have fallen in love with a person, your love can only thrive in the atmosphere of positively - while it will be starved by a person who is persistently negative.
positive people focus more on their vision rather than allow what they are facing to determin their futuire.
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY
Entering a relationship with the intention to marry in thr future is for the matured. taking responsibility starts from things as little as: managing one's space to making enough room to support more than yourself, making money to support who ever you bring to your world..
If you attract a person who cannot take responsibility for his life- you have more or less adopted a child, rather than ffound a partner for life.
RESPONSIBILITY:
1. Responsibility means doing what you say will do, being where you say you will be:
- Paying the bils
- Keeping your promise
- Showing up on time
- Picking the kids from school when you have children
- Being there at the precise time you said you would be
ACCOUNTABILITY:
1.Taking responsibility for your life also means being accountable - not thinking that because a man is going to be or is the head of the home - he no longer has accountability to his spouse.
2. or the lady who just browses over the truth of her lateness and say i've been out with girls.
accountability must be mutual in my relationship that will go far and that will produce healthy children and a healthy marriage.
RESPECT
1. Respect starts from childhood, teaching children to recognize boundaries, how far they may go, and what they may do.
2. it mature into asking for things gently without shouting or banging.
3. A person will show his respect for you by how he manages his feelings, how he recognizes your personal boundaries pornoriom, your pornoriom, his employee or employer. Other people's feeling, your time, and his time.
Editor
Pastor Peter Obgobo
Hitnewsphotos
0249942184 or 0209176486.
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