LOOK OUT FOR GOOD RELATIONSHIP

A. Positive godly self-image.
I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 (KJV).
People with a positive self-image take pride in what they do, in whom they are, they take care of themselves - they watch over their own personal lives, and therefore they are also to care adequately for somebody else and do not become excess baggage in anybody's life. They take then for their lives and express a godly self-confidence.

THEY MUST HAVE A COMMITTMENT TO THIER PERSONAL, SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH
1. He or she should be committed to learning everything they can, to become a better person and a better spouse in the future.
2. People who place high value on personal transformation tend to work towards a happier home.
3. Is he or she willing to receive help and guidance through counseling, books, seminars, tapes, lectures, messages etc that can further enhance his person and his ability to make you enjoy relating to his or her?
4. Any relationship where only one person seeks help will perpetually be one-sided - such help is necessary because we all have excess baggages from our childhood, upbringing and various social contacts we have had.
5. The answer to such excess baggages is an openness to the working of God and the desire and hunger to be a better person.

AIMING FOR EMOTIONAL MATURITY AND EXPRESSION
1. An intimate relationship is only possible where the two persons in the relationship are open, practical and willing to be vulnerable to each other.
2. We all have feelings, but not everyone knows what are our feelings about certain matters are.
3. Management of feelings includes: ability to express your feelings without bottling them up; the method of sharing your feeling without hurting everyone around you.
4. Being in a relationship where the other person does not express themselves give syou the feeling of self-punishment, makes you become emotionally over-generous - that is you give more then your partner gives or desires to receive from you.
5. A person who is not willing to open up and share his intimate feeling does not deserve an intimate felowship or relationship.
6. The emotionally stingy will make you practically beg to be cored/.
7. The emotionally stingy will make it look like you are being difficult asking to be loved.

HONESTY AND INTEGRITY
This cannot be over-emphasised in the relationship, where both are believers that there has to be honesty, integrity, and trust-worthiness for a healty relationship to exist and continue.
- Dishonesty quenches love and destroys intimacy.
- Dishonesty can make the other person frigid in their emotions.
- Dishonesty is the attitude of a person who thinks he is only negotiating his way through life.

It helps you to be honest with yourself, not to chain to be what you are not. integrity in its expression towards others means upholding honour and imparting other peoples life, in such a way that do not doubt who you are and what you do:

Lack of integrity in a relationship when both are singles if not dealt with will only expand and explode after marriage, unless there is some kind of divine intervention. On the other hand: consistent honesty provides the atmosphere for natural trust to mature.

THEY HAVE A GREAT POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
Negative people do not matter- of -fact they focus on problems and resist solutions. they find something, someone, somewhere to blame for what is happening. they allow fear and worry to rule them.
Negative people are cynical about life, cynical about people and do not trust easily. Building a relationship with a negative person is an upward task that will challenge even the most patient. A person with a positive attitude to life is always looking for solution to the challenges they face - They turn obstacles to opportunities. If you are in relationship and have fallen in love with a person, your love can only thrive in the atmosphere of positively - while it will be starved by a person who is persistently negative.
positive people focus more on their vision rather than allow what they are facing to determin their futuire.

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY
Entering a relationship with the intention to marry in thr future is for the matured. taking responsibility starts from things as little as: managing one's space to making enough room to support more than yourself, making money to support who ever you bring to your world..

If you attract a person who cannot take responsibility for his life- you have more or less adopted a child, rather than ffound a partner for life.

RESPONSIBILITY:
1. Responsibility means doing what you say will do, being where you say you will be:
- Paying the bils
- Keeping your promise
- Showing up on time
- Picking the kids from school when you have children
- Being there at the precise time you said you would be

ACCOUNTABILITY:
1.Taking responsibility for your life also means being accountable - not thinking that because a man is going to be or is the head of the home - he no longer has accountability to his spouse.
2. or the lady who just browses over the truth of her lateness and say i've been out with girls.
accountability must be mutual in my relationship that will go far and that will produce healthy children and a healthy marriage.

RESPECT
1. Respect starts from childhood, teaching children to recognize boundaries, how far they may go, and what they may do.
2. it mature into asking for things gently without shouting or banging.
3. A person will show his respect for you by how he manages his feelings, how he recognizes your personal boundaries pornoriom, your pornoriom, his employee or employer. Other people's feeling, your time, and his time.
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Pastor Peter Obgobo
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